CAROLYN'S COMPOSITIONS

September 27, 2012

I’m Angry at My Adult Daughter

CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

I’M ANGRY AT MY ADULT DAUGHTER

In August my daughter Sandy did something that made me angry. And I may never forgive her.

Like most mothers, there have been times my child has made me angry.  Not often but it has happened. At least, I think it’s happened. I can’t recall an instance of being angry with her. She wasn’t perfect, but when something happened we dealt with it and moved on.

Sandy, now at the beginning of her fourth decade, is mother to an upcoming fifteen-year-old. They live around the corner from me, and we get along just fine. If I need something, she shares. If she needs something, I share. It’s a healthy relationship that’s becoming richer as we age. But as I am the older generation, I tell her I am better and wiser.

One of my para-professional interests is photography. When I worked at the Fay-West (Tribune-Review weekly insert) newspaper they had a feature photo on the front page. There were times I would trump my photographer/editor’s photo. He once told me that someone at the main office asked him who the new photographer was.  I’d like to think I’m a decent photographer.

I’ve taken thousands of pictures, although I haven’t entered them in competitions. This August I decided I would enter some in the Westmoreland Fair (Greensburg, Pennsylvania). Sandy had just returned from a vacation to Boston (which didn’t help the later situation any since we unhappily decided to postpone our New England trip this year) and decided to enter a photograph she took at Cheers Bar (again, this didn’t help because one of my favorite programs is Cheers and I’ve never been to the bar).

Since she had plans I offered to take her single photograph, along with my eight photographs, to the fair on entry day. However, I gave her a caveat: her “back and white thing” category photo wasn’t to trump my photo entered in that same category.

When my husband and I went to the fair several days later we checked out the photo competition. Of my eight photos I pulled a third place (black and white animals), two fifths (color animals and place), and one honorable mention (place).

And (more…)

April 9, 2011

Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Anger #5: Only Jesus’ Way

CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

LENTEN STUDY: 7 DEADLY SINS

ANGER #5

 ONLY JESUS’ WAY

MONTE W. HOLLAND

INTRODUCTION

     The following study is a journey through Lent, the forty-day pre-Easter season (which excludes Sundays).  Easter’s date, determined by the time of the first full moon after the Spring equinox, is very late this year.

     Traditionally, many Christians use Lent for self-examination and a renewal of their commitment to their faith.

     This year I  chose to do a devotional study on aspects of the Seven Deadly Sins, sins identified by very early Christians as key behaviors separating man from God and God’s will. The seven sins are not listed together in the Bible—each is, however, spoken about in various Scripture sites.

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THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS:

GREED, ENVY, ANGER, LUST, GLUTTONY, SLOTH and PRIDE.

THE ASPECTS OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS ARE:

#1 Breaking the Mosaic Law

#2 Defying God or rebelling against God

#3 Acts of violence to others

#4 Failing to make proper sacrifices or worship

#5 Not living up to or reflecting God’s glory (not living as one created in God’s image)

Anger #5

ONLY JESUS’ WAY

SCRIPTURE:  7 Then asked he them again, Whom seek ye? And they said, Jesus of Nazareth. 8 Jesus answered, I have told you that I am he: if therefore ye seek me, let these go their way: 9 that the saying might be fulfilled, which he spake, Of them which thou gavest me have I lost none. 10 Then Simon Peter having a sword drew it, and smote the high priest’s servant, and cut off his right ear. The servant’s name was Malchus. 11 Then said Jesus unto Peter, Put up thy sword into the sheath: the cup which my Father hath given me, shall I not drink it? (John 18:7-11 (KJV))

 43 You have heard people say, “Love your neighbors and hate your enemies.” 44 But I tell you to love your enemies and pray for anyone who mistreats you. 45 Then you will be acting like your Father in heaven. He makes the sun rise on both good and bad people. And he sends rain for the ones who do right and for the ones who do wrong. 46 If you love only those people who love you, will God reward you for this? Even tax collectors love their friends. 47 If you greet only your friends, what’s so great about this? Don’t even unbelievers do that? 48 But you must always act like your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:43-48 (CEV))

16 All of you surely know you are God’s temple and his Spirit lives in you. 17 Together you are God’s holy temple, and God will destroy anyone who destroys his temple. (I Corinthians 3:16-17 CEV))

DEVOTION:  Sometimes I think caller ID isn’t a good thing. When I see names and numbers that I recognize, my attitude toward the call is pre-conditioned. I associate some numbers and names with bad news, maybe a death in the family. I associate other numbers with a friendly voice and some upbeat message. Then there are the numbers from which I expect complaints and demands for action—causing the hair on the back of my neck to stand up, and making me defensive and unpleasant when I answer the telephone.

     That isn’t God’s way. These persons aren’t my enemies, but I treat them as     (more…)

April 2, 2011

Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Anger#3: I Would Never Get That Angry, Would I?

LENTEN STUDY: 7 DEADLY SINS

ANGER #3:

I WOULD NEVER GET THAT ANGRY, WOULD I?

MONTE W. HOLLAND

 INTRODUCTION

     The following study is a journey through Lent, the forty-day pre-Easter season (which excludes Sundays).  Easter’s date, determined by the time of the first full moon after the Spring equinox, is very late this year.

     Traditionally, many Christians use Lent for self-examination and a renewal of their commitment to their faith.

     This year I  chose to do a devotional study on aspects of the Seven Deadly Sins, sins identified by very early Christians as key behaviors separating man from God and God’s will. The seven sins are not listed together in the Bible—each is, however, spoken about in various Scripture sites.

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THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS:

GREED, ENVY, ANGER, LUST, GLUTTONY, SLOTH and PRIDE.

THE ASPECTS OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS ARE:

#1 Breaking the Mosaic Law

#2 Defying God or rebelling against God

#3 Acts of violence to others

#4 Failing to make proper sacrifices or worship

#5 Not living up to or reflecting God’s glory (not living as one created in God’s image)

ANGER #3

 I WOULD NEVER GET THAT ANGRY, WOULD I?

SCRIPTURE:  James 1:19-27 19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. 22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does. 26 If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. 27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. (CEV)

DEVOTION: It takes discipline to succeed in sports. Long gone are the days of little training, heavy drinking, and relying on pure physical talent. There are too many talented, hard-working athletes out there ready to take the place of those without commitment.

     Discipline in sports goes beyond training. Discipline on the field is essential also. Athletes are tested by (more…)

March 26, 2011

Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Anger #3: I Would Never Get That Angry, Would I?

CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

LENTEN STUDY: 7 DEADLY SINS

ANGER #3: I WOULD NEVER GET THAT ANGRY, WOULD I?

MONTE W. HOLLAND

 INTRODUCTION

     The following study is a journey through Lent, the forty-day pre-Easter season (which excludes Sundays).  Easter’s date, determined by the time of the first full moon after the Spring equinox, is very late this year.

     Traditionally, many Christians use Lent for self-examination and a renewal of their commitment to their faith.

     This year I  chose to do a devotional study on aspects of the Seven Deadly Sins, sins identified by very early Christians as key behaviors separating man from God and God’s will. The seven sins are not listed together in the Bible—each is, however, spoken about in various Scripture sites.

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THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS:

GREED, ENVY, ANGER, LUST, GLUTTONY, SLOTH and PRIDE.

THE ASPECTS OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS ARE:

#1 Breaking the Mosaic Law

#2 Defying God or rebelling against God

#3 Acts of violence to others

#4 Failing to make proper sacrifices or worship

#5 Not living up to or reflecting God’s glory (not living as one created in God’s image)

ANGER #3

I WOULD NEVER GET THAT ANGRY, WOULD I?

 

SCRIPTURE: The Wise Men 1 When Jesus was born in the village of Bethlehem in Judea, Herod was king. During this time some wise men from the east came to Jerusalem 2 and said, “Where is the child born to be king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him.” 3 When King Herod heard about this, he was worried, and so was everyone else in Jerusalem. 4 Herod brought together the chief priests and the teachers of the Law of Moses and asked them, “Where will the Messiah be born?” 5 They told him, “He will be born in Bethlehem, just as the prophet wrote, 6 ‘Bethlehem in the land of Judea, you are very important among the towns of Judea. From your town will come a leader, who will be like a shepherd for my people Israel.’ ” 7 Herod secretly called in the wise men and asked them when they had first seen the star. 8 He told them, “Go to Bethlehem and search carefully for the child. As soon as you find him, let me know. I also want to go and worship him.” 9 The wise men listened to what the king said and then left. And the star they had seen in the east went on ahead of them until it stopped over the place where the child was. 10 They were thrilled and excited to see the star. 11 When the men went into the house and saw the child with Mary, his mother, they knelt down and worshiped him. They took out their gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh and gave them to him. 12 Later they were warned in a dream not to return to Herod, and they went back home by another road. (Matthew 2:1-12)

The Plot To Kill Jesus ( Mark 14.1, 2; Luke 22.1, 2; John 11.45-53) 1 When Jesus had finished teaching, he told his disciples, 2 “You know two days from now will be Passover. This is when the Son of Man will be handed over to his enemies and nailed to a cross.” 3 At that time the chief priests and the nation’s leaders were meeting at the home of Caiaphas the high priest. 4 They planned how they could sneak around and have Jesus arrested and put to death. 5 But they said, “We must not do it during Passover, because the people will riot.”  

Judas and the Chief Priests ( Mark 14.10, 11; Luke 22.3-6) 14 Judas Iscariot was one of the twelve disciples. He went to the chief priests 15 and asked, “How much will you give me if I help you arrest Jesus?” They paid Judas 30 silver coins, 16 and from then on he started looking for a good chance to betray Jesus. (Matthew 26:1-5, 14-16)

DEVOTION:  The Scriptural words vary from translation to translation: worried, very worried, upset, disturbed, troubled. Herod was angry that someone might come on the scene that would remove him from power, erode his control over the people. Anger leads to calculation, to back room plots, to intrigue—all with a capital objective: violence and death to another human.

     Anger and sneakiness often get tangled together. We get angry and want to respond in this anger, but we don’t want to be found out. Often we are willing to choose the road to death for others. For example, we (more…)

March 19, 2011

Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Anger #2: Anger With God

CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

LENTEN STUDY: 7 DEADLY SINS

ANGER #2: ANGER WITH GOD

MONTE W. HOLLAND

INTRODUCTION

     The following study is a journey through Lent, the forty-day pre-Easter season (which excludes Sundays).  Easter’s date, determined by the time of the first full moon after the Spring equinox, is very late this year.

     Traditionally, many Christians use Lent for self-examination and a renewal of their commitment to their faith.

     This year I  chose to do a devotional study on aspects of the Seven Deadly Sins, sins identified by very early Christians as key behaviors separating man from God and God’s will. The seven sins are not listed together in the Bible—each is, however, spoken about in various Scripture sites. 

THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS:

GREED, ENVY, ANGER, LUST, GLUTTONY, SLOTH and PRIDE.

THE ASPECTS OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS ARE:

#1 Breaking the Mosaic Law

#2 Defying God or rebelling against God

#3 Acts of violence to others

#4 Failing to make proper sacrifices or worship

#5 Not living up to or reflecting God’s glory (not living as one created in God’s image)

 

Anger #2:

Anger With God

SCRIPTURE: 1 The whole Israelite community set out from the Desert of Sin, traveling from place to place as the LORD commanded. They camped at Rephidim, but there was no water for the people to drink. 2 So they quarreled with Moses and said, “Give us water to drink.” Moses replied, “Why do you quarrel with me? Why do you put the LORD to the test?” 3 But the people were thirsty for water there, and they grumbled against Moses. They said, “Why did you bring us up out of Egypt to make us and our children and livestock die of thirst?” 4 Then Moses cried out to the LORD, “What am I to do with these people? They are almost ready to stone me.” 5 The LORD answered Moses, “Walk on ahead of the people. Take with you some of the elders of Israel and take in your hand the staff with which you struck the Nile, and go. 6 I will stand there before you by the rock at Horeb. Strike the rock, and water will come out of it for the people to drink.” So Moses did this in the sight of the elders of Israel. 7 And he called the place Massah and Meribah because the Israelites quarreled and because they tested the LORD saying, “Is the LORD among us or not?” (Exodus 17:1-7)

DEVOTION: Why didn’t it rain?

     The spring in the woods was drying up. It was the source of water for five families that needed water to drink, to bathe with, to flush toilets, and to wash clothes. There was so little water available that showers were short, no clothes were washed and the toilets flushed rarely. Tenants carried drinking and cooking water from outside sources into their apartments.

     It was late summer, the driest time of the year. It was easy to blame God when the weather map never showed shower patterns Some people were telling me to drill a well for water that would be much poorer than this good spring water.

     When the water totally stopped flowing, I felt like I was at Meribah. Why did I ever build these apartments? Why did God open this door for me and leave me with these unhappy people?

     It’s easy to forget our blessings. God provided me with help. A good friend lined up a man with an earthmoving machine to build a dam in front of my spring to trap the small amount of water flowing from it. My friend loaned me a pump and generator to open up a pipe that had become plugged with silt from the dry spring. With their help we had plenty of water until the abundance of the rainy season came.

     Anger can stifle us, bringing us to a point where we resort to blaming God and rebelling against God. Trusting God and the kindness of those around us is the better solution. I don’t want my spring to be remembered as Meribah (testing God), as it was for the Israelites. A better name would be Grace (God’s kindness.)

Prayer: Loving God, it is easy to lay blame for all our difficulties at your door and become angry. Thank you for being a kind God that works in this world through those around us and ourselves if we open our hearts to you. Amen.

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To read the previous devotion, click on: Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Envy #2: Brotherly Envy

To read the following devotion, click on: Lenten Study: 7 Deadly Sins—Lust #2: Jesus First

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ADDITIONAL READING:

Youghiogheny River AKAs

Jellyfish Sting Wallis Sands Beach Visitors

Googins Island, Maine: An Osprey Sanctuary

February 27, 2010

ANGER!

CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

ANGER

Nancy Briskay Cornell Lipsius

     All of the anger is gone. The passionate, unreasoning, unstructured anger no longer exists. And it disturbs me.

     There is growing terror that over the years, anger has been replaced by an acceptance, a compliance.

     The anger at injustice, immoral acts, prejudice, the complacency of others when faced by nuclear armament all seems to have dissipated and it frightens me.

     I see apathy all around me and feel that somehow I myself have fallen into that apathetic state. It is as though a fine gauze curtain has been draped over my mind allowing my eyes to see through a (more…)

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