January 26, 2013

Daily Prompt: Dearly Departed—Writing My Own Eulogy




This post is a response to the January 25, 2013, WordPress Daily Prompt: Dearly Departed.


Carolyn at East Lamoine Cemetery, East Lamoine, Maine

Carolyn at East Lamoine Cemetery, East Lamoine, Maine

I always say I want to attend my own funeral. After all, a good party is hard to pass up.

Besides, it could be interesting, especially if all my siblings showed up—it would be a first meeting for most of them, since they are so fragmented:

  • the sister I spent my childhood with
  • my mother’s second family of five
  • four members of my father’s second family of five (one deceased)
  • the two sisters my mother released for adoption (both of which found us, their bio-family, through this blog
  • and I mustn’t forget, my three surviving  step-brothers (one was lost in Viet Nam)

If I counted corerctly, the total is fifteen surviving siblings that could attend the celebration of my demise. It could make quite an interesting party, one which I certainly don’t want to miss.

William & Louisa Cornell's Bible, a wedding gift in 1853

William & Louisa Cornell’s Bible, a wedding gift in 1853

Thus, it seems appropriate, a next step, to write my own eulogy. However, I prefer to leave that to others—but it should be written before my passing so I can edit it and approve it.

And it should contain the following points:

My unfinished to-do list indicated that I was fully living up to the last minute. She delighted in her family, doing crafts, photography, writing, genealogy, travel, and exploring new ideas.

She took pride in her craft work, which led to a three-year business in Atlanta, Georgia.

She related to life situations through her camera, which also encouraged her to look at things in a new way in order to take the unique picture. Her first entry into photographic creativity occurred when she placed the bowl of a child’s potty seat on her sleeping mother’s head and shot the result.

(Hopefully) she finished Intertwined Love, the historic romance novel that was not chosen but evolved. It took about fifteen years to complete and took her into studies of mysterious subjects and enabled her to meet people all over the globe.

She loved telling tales from her genealogy, especially those concerning the infamous Lizzy Borden and the renowned Ezra Cornell.

CORNELL---COWESETT CEMETERYAlthough she considered New England her genealogical roots, and loved to travel there, she unexpectedly discovered that two families who were original settlers in her retirement county in Pennsylvania counted among her ancestry—and she didn’t have to travel far to research them.

Although electronically challenged, she did pretty well at what she did learn and use regularly, but wasn’t shy in seeking help. She used her blog to explore a variety of subjects and to write in a variety of genres.

Honesty and integrity were her prime values. She shared her life openly through her blog.

Her constant Christmas tradition was substituting a homemade ornament for a Christmas card each year.

You could never eat off her floors—she said she didn’t consider cleanliness next to Godliness. If she did, you’d know where to find her in the afterlife

She truly didn’t like to live in the clutter that always surrounded her. However, her multiple interests led to the situation that she said gave her the appearance of a hoarder. She sometimes watched the television show the Hoarder to feel somewhat superior and accepting. She enjoyed visiting other persons when their homes were messy—she felt a kinship in their clutter.

After reading Scripture, she believed the message is in the stories and not necessarily in the factual details, the message being that relationship is the most important aspect of life, yet it is the most difficult challenge and accomplishment. She often said that this was God’s joke on humanity. She practiced presence when in the presence of others, a skill that was quite difficult to achieve.

Above all, she lived life to the fullest using Scriptural mandates as her centered post.


She once challenged a blind friend, Russ Roy, to write her eulogy. The challenge can be linked to below. His response is filed away, I believe. It isn’t posted.

Now I leave it to someone else to write my eulogy, if there is to be one. I’d like to hear what they will write.

But I warn the writer—don’t cheat by taking what I wrote and using it as your presentation. Do your own work.




Goodbye, Cruel World: December 21, 2012


  1. Our pastor challenged us to write our own obit several years ago. Mine probably needs to be redone need to reread it. Mine was a boilermake plate. Yours above was most interesting. Did write my mother’s as nobody else did. Posted it to local papers and the one were they lived while I was growing up. The responses I received were heartwarming. Thanks for inspiring me to try again.

    Comment by Barbee Hodgkins — January 26, 2013 @ 7:34 pm | Reply

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  3. my eulogy: God, she did some stupid things, but let her in anyway, this place could use some laughs.

    Comment by Heartafire — January 29, 2013 @ 5:42 pm | Reply

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