CAROLYN'S COMPOSITIONS

December 15, 2008

TYPES OF ABUSE


CAROLYN’S COMPOSITIONS

TYPES OF ABUSE

     “Can anyone here define the word abuse?” I asked.
     The table was filled with a core group of persons hoping to improve their community and their skills in lifting up others by participating as a member of the board of directors in the newly formed Family Support Program. The focus of this organization was to prevent child abuse by healing parents of the effects of their own childhood abuse.
     However, at this, our first meeting, the only response I had from the people who wanted to stop abuse in their community was blank stares. I hadn’t realized how desperately these persons were to do a task that they couldn’t define. How could they help prevent something that they knew was wrong, but could not define? I discovered that I had my work cut out for me.
     Since the Children’s Trust Fund grant was directed towards prevention of child abuse, I delineated six definitions that focused on that topic.
     PHYSICAL NEGLECT occurs when a child is not sheltered, clothed or fed adequately.
     PHYSICAL ABUSE often, but not

always, shows evidence of bodily injury. Adults hurt children: break bones, shake, bite, strangle, choke, shoot, cut, burn, etc.
     SEXUAL ABUSE ranges from exhibitionism/fondling to intercourse/child pornography production. The child is exploited for the sexual gratification of the adult.
     EMOTIONAL NEGLECT occurs when adults fail to provide the acceptance, understanding, affection, attention and supervision necessary for the child’s normal psychological growth. It also occurs when an adult treats the child like another adult, eg. a divorced discussing her date or financial problems with the child.
     VERBAL ABUSE involves belittling, insulting, criticizing, and demeaning vocabulary. It is verbal assault.
     RITUAL ABUSE provides the adult with a “high.” A child is presented with a double bind: a choice to make, but either choice results in punishment. Ritual abuse takes many other forms, also.
     SPIRITUAL ABUSE is the use of religion to control another person.
     The above definitions are simplified, but provide an overview of the forms of abuse that can destroy a child’s feeling of self-worth. Parents using these techniques were usually the products of families where they experienced the same treatment, and these parents are continuing the cycle of abuse. The goal of our Family Support Program was to break this cycle by making parents aware of their behavior and its sources, and helping them to learn healthy behaviors that would enable their children to grow up healthy.
     If you are caught in a pattern of abusing your children, seek help. Learn how to turn negative parenting habits with into a positive parenting style.

ADDITIONAL READING:

(For postings on abuse check out the CHILD ABUSE ISSUES folder on the right side of the front page of this site, www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com .)    

CHILD ABUSE DEFINITIONS

THOUGHTS FOR DAVID

CHILDREN LEFT HOME ALONE (or in cars alone)

ANOTHER HORRIFYING HEADLINE

SHOULD INFORMATION ON AN ALLEGED CHILD ABUSER BE PUBLICIZED?

MY HAPPY PLACE

IF I COULD CRY

EMILY AND MR. SPIDER

WISDOM FROM A CHILD TO A GRANDPARENT

SANTA STORIES

SANTAS, MRS. SANTAS, ELVES & REINDEER WANTED: Please apply—Application #1

Dear SANTA from COCHRAN

(SANTA) SUED FOR NON-SUPPORT

SANTA IS DEAD!

WHO IS COCHRAN?

HI! I’M COCHRAN! NICE TO MEET Y’ALL!

DEAR A’NONNIEMOUSE FROM COCHRAN (COCKROACH)

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