Characteristics of and lures used by child molesters

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CHARACTERISTICS OF AND LURES USED BY CHILD MOLESTORS

 

 

     April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. (to view photo click on: http://www.flickr.com/photos/carolyncholland/3412621389/). I will be continuing my posts on child abuse and domestic violence throughout the month. Please be there for children whom you suspect are being abused. Sometimes, all you can do is hold out a loving hand and pray for them.

     This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE or the folder DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions.

 

     It is essential for a parent to know the characteristics of a child sexual abuser in order to protect their child. It is equally important to understand how perpetrators lure children into their web of harm, and to teach their child how to identify danger and respond to it, and most importantly, to report it to a safe person.

     However, if adults can be fooled, how much easier is it to fool a child. Parents need to be knowledgeable and continually alert to the dangers around their children.

 

     An abuser/perpetrator may not view their behavior as harmful. They may be unclear of

Characteristics of healthy families

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CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY FAMILIES

 

 

     April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. (to view photo click on: http://www.flickr.com/photos/carolyncholland/3412621389/). I will be continuing my posts on child abuse and domestic violence throughout the month. Please be there for children whom you suspect are being abused. Sometimes, all you can do is hold out a loving hand and pray for them.

     This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE or the folder DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions.

 

     All the media coverage makes dysfunctional families easy to detect. But what markers identify healthy families? Why do some families “make it” while others do not?

     No family is completely healthy. Nor is any family completely unhealthy. Rather, they fall on a continuum, able to move in either direction toward health or dysfunction. Healthy families have traits more on the healthy end of the continuum. What are these traits?

     First, healthy families tend to

The Cycle of Abuse in Domestic Violence

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THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

 

     April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. (to view photo click on: http://www.flickr.com/photos/carolyncholland/3412621389/). I will be continuing my posts on child abuse and domestic violence throughout the month. Please be there for children whom you suspect are being abused. Sometimes, all you can do is hold out a loving hand and pray for them.
     This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions.

     Abusive relationships usually involve a pattern of behavior. Since abuse is often directed against women, it will be referred to that way: however, women also abuse men.
     After a battering incident a honeymoon stage occurs, often including apologies, gift giving, promises, and

ARE YOU PUNISHING OR DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD?

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ARE YOU PUNISHING OR DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD?

This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions. Links to the posta are listed at the end of this post.

     Confusion exists among both parents and professionals when it comes to differentiating between punishment and discipline.
     Webster’s dictionary defines punishment: “a penalty for a crime or offense; to injure or hurt.” It defines discipline: “training intended to produce a specified character or pattern of behavior.”
     The goal of punishment is control, its basis is

THOSE WHO DO EVIL HAVE NOT SEEN GOD: A Devotion on Child Abuse

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THOSE WHO DO EVIL HAVE NOT SEEN GOD

God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.

 

     SCRIPTURE: III John 11 states: “Anyone who does good is from God. Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God.” For “God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.” (I Corinthians 14)
     DEVOTION: Child abuse results in destruction and confusion for its victims, who often state a belief in God but share confusion over His presence and love in their personal lives.
     Adult survivors question: If God is good and all-powerful, then where

CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSIVE FAMILIES

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CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSIVE FAMILIES

 

This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE ISSUES, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions. Also, check the folder: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

     Since families consider alcoholism and/or abusiveness a “family secret,” homes with these issues present teach children and other family members three key lessons: DON’T TALK, DON’T TRUST, DON’T FEEL.
     TALKING enables individuals to both share ideas and approach problems—stating them, defining them and solving them.
     Alcoholic and abusive homes deny k

CHILD ABUSE CREATES VICTIMIZATION

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CHILD ABUSE CREATES VICTIMIZATION

This post is part of a continuing series about child abuse and parenting. At the end of this article are links to the other posts in this series and on this subject. If the links do not work, go to www.carolyncholland.wordpress.com , click on the folder CHILD ABUSE, and scroll down the posts to find answers to your questions.

     Abuse, the wrongfully use of a person, can affect the core of their being to the extent that it influences every aspect of their life, from the moment of the first act of mistreatment. Abuse of this depth is considered “trauma.”
     What is considered “trauma” can vary with each individual. Much depends on the individual’s past experience, personality make-up, perception and responses of others to the trauma.
     A VICTIM is a person who experiences a trauma. Many victims of trauma heal and continue on with life, with minimal long-term effects.
     The danger occurs when

TYPES OF ABUSE

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TYPES OF ABUSE

     “Can anyone here define the word abuse?” I asked.
     The table was filled with a core group of persons hoping to improve their community and their skills in lifting up others by participating as a member of the board of directors in the newly formed Family Support Program. The focus of this organization was to prevent child abuse by healing parents of the effects of their own childhood abuse.
     However, at this, our first meeting, the only response I had from the people who wanted to stop abuse in their community was blank stares. I hadn’t realized how desperately these persons were to do a task that they couldn’t define. How could they help prevent something that they knew was wrong, but could not define? I discovered that I had my work cut out for me.
     Since the Children’s Trust Fund grant was directed towards prevention of child abuse, I delineated six definitions that focused on that topic.
     PHYSICAL NEGLECT occurs when a child is not sheltered, clothed or fed adequately.
     PHYSICAL ABUSE often, but not

CHILD ABUSE DEFINITIONS

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CHILD ABUSE DEFINITIONS

 

     When I was director of a Children’s Trust Fund program in a former community, I discovered that my enthusiastic board members had no idea how to define “abuse.” I think this is a common situation, and not unique to this community.
     The term “child abuse” can be defined on several different levels. The LEGAL definition of abuse is provided by

CHILD ABUSE AND SCRIPTURE

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CHILD ABUSE AND SCRIPTURE

—written by both Carolyn and Monte Holland

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When considering child abuse from the Scriptural perspective there are some important questions. Below is an attempt to answer some of them.

First: Children must be MADE to OBEY (their parents), right?
Obedience IS important. Ephesians 6:1, 4 and Colossians 3:20-21 instruct children to be obedient. However, this directive does not stop there: it continues on